Narghiza Ergashova, the author of Curly Clix Convictions, immerses in her autobiography, in prominent matters pertaining to financial abuse.
Financial abuse is the term used in Australia in cases where separated parent(s) (typically the father) not residing with the children is not contributing or not disclosing his income to contribute fair and equitable amount towards the living costs of the children.
The terminology adopted wraps the estranged and possibly well and truly divorced father’s income into the “ownership pool” where the wife commands control over his income through Child Support Australia i.e. Services Australia NSW.
The Curly Clix Convictions author, Narghiza Ergashova, is all pro supporting children though in Ergashova’s view it is best done through one's volition and full voluntary participation of parties. Neither term “volition” or “voluntary participation” is in use in the Child Support vocabulary as the agency has been well brainwashed into thinking parents that don’t live with children are all, without exception, are deadbeat parents that do not pay up.
Australian Child Support Agency therefore adopts a view “guilty” until proven innocent. With a stroke of a pen a largely “half educated” — no they are not trained to read financials and require a lot of hand holding — officer produces a legally binding document into which she plucks a percentage, a number, a contribution, a statistic … that simply sees you scramble for survival. At best you can put a dispute in, and a new officer will review the “artwork” of the previous one, critique it vehemently to only put a new pluck number in, sending you to dispute the new wet finger in the air through a body called ART — Administrative Review Tribunal. And “there you go”, states Narghiza Ergashova, a year and half of your life written off debating the “real” with those who only comprehend “nominal”. Those that chose not to “comprehend” anything but their “nominal” views.
But the bigger issue Narghiza Ergashova points out here is that while there are hundreds of ways Australian Child Support Agency can render innocent parents into the “guilty” pay-up bucket, there is absolutely no measure to check or conduct any form of audit trail as to how the receiving parent spends the money. Nunka, Nada, Nill.
Curly Clix Convictions author, Narghiza Ergashova’s ex-husband Scott Daniel Coxhell had two bankruptcies under his belt and a long history of financial mismanagement. Narghiza finds herself in a situation where Scott demands more Child Support money, yet he refuses to enter an arrangement whereby Narghiza pays directly to third parties to ensure that the child that resides with the father is the sole and the only beneficiary of the funds. Scott insists the money go into his bank account giving Ergashova no confidence in Scott’s ability to properly and fairly attribute the money towards meeting their child’s needs.
Given Ergashova’s propensity to earn significant amount of income, much more than Scott, Scott technically does not have to work to live a good life should he succeed in claiming the amount he is after i.e. pursuing Ergashova’s highest earning capacity. Not what Ergashova is on pay-wise at the time.
To the question can you run a business on the back of collecting child support? The answer is most definitely!
Threefold issue here outlined below:
unchecked misappropriation of funds, in other words kids are no better off, regardless how much the other parent pays to Child Support Agency.
needs of kids v. needs of the claimant parents are not assessed to established whether the child needs an exorbitant amount of subsidy that the parent is claiming from the other parent? what is the true cost of raising this child measured against the mortgage the parent obtained that he or she cannot support on his or her own income.
alienation of the paying parent, despite their financial contributions, remains a significant issue. The paying parent not only lacks the ability to ensure that the recipient parent is fairly allocating the funds toward the child’s living and upbringing expenses but also often endures ongoing hostility and alienation. This dynamic frequently results in children distancing themselves from the paying parent, showing disrespect, and spending little to no time with them. In essence, the paying parent is financially supporting the recipient parent to raise the child while being excluded from the child’s life.
Now if you are experiencing point three above, and you are a paying father or mother, and the ex-partner “poisoned” your kids believe me you are in the majority bucket along with 90% of other divorced parents.
Here are some prominent court cases to consider on the subject above:
Goldman v Goldman [2018] FamCACF 65:
The court found the mother had alienated the children from their father, causing emotional harm. Orders were made for the children to live with the father and have supervised time with the mother3.
McGregor v McGregor [2012] FamCAFC 69:
The father was found to have alienated the children from their mother through demeaning behavior. The court ordered the children to live with the mother after the father completed parenting and behavior programs3.
Ward v Ward (No 2) [2016] FamCAFC 890:
In a high-conflict case, the court allowed the children to choose their living arrangements, balancing risks and their preferences3.
Breakwell (2008):
The court ruled in favor of the father, finding his alienation less damaging than the mother’s impact on the children4.
Kinsella v Kinsella (2007):
The father was found to have alienated the children from their mother through false allegations. The court granted sole parental responsibility to the mother4.
Compounding this rather dire situation is the fact that there are no criminal or civil ramifications for parents to make false claims to Child Support to get the Agency-Dog engaged into frivolous investigation that is done for no other reason but to cause grief to the other parent.
After all, this service is free. Fully funded by taxpayers.
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Curly Clix Convictions
Exploring Narghiza Ergashova and Her Insightful Narratives in "Curly Clix Convictions"
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Passion vs. Financial Responsibility: Ergashova candidly explores the complexities of being in love while managing financial responsibilities. She delves into the relief and challenges of separate finances, highlighting how financial independence can simplify aspects of a tumultuous relationship.
A Personal Journey Through Financial Risk: Her personal journey with her ex-husband Scott Daniel Coxhell offers readers a firsthand account of the perils of combining finances, especially when one partner has a history of financial instability. Ergashova’s narrative is both a cautionary tale and a guide, emphasizing the importance of understanding your partner's financial habits.
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